20 Years

FIRSTI’ve been trying to keep all of my blog entries as positive, uplifting stories. There’s been a lot of good things that have happened since my last blog entry. However, My 20th wedding anniversary trumps them all.

Tuesday, May 27th was my 20th wedding anniversary. This was the first anniversary since getting the family all back under the same roof. For the last four years, I was working in the bay area while Kelley and Sunny were living in our house in Eagle, Idaho. Last summer, we sold the Idaho house and moved into the California apartment, before ultimately moving to the Seattle area last November.

KELLEYANOn my 18th wedding anniversary, one of my friends noted that 18 years was a long time, and asked me what our secret was. At the time, living mostly apart, I made a joke, “separate addresses.” But, to be honest after thinking about the question later, I didn’t have a succinct answer to that question. Even more honestly, I didn’t have a verbose long winded answer either.

This year, an example came to me in an odd form. Some background: this year, my favorite hockey team since I was 8 years old, the New York Rangers, are in the Stanley Cup finals. On Tuesday, the 27th, the Rangers were up 3-1 in the conference finals, and could win the series with a win in Montreal. Coincidentally, the Rangers haven’t been to the finals since 1994, the year that Kelley and I were married (another funny story for another time). Its more than fair to say, Kelley is not a hockey fan.

DANKELLEI came home from work, and wanted to watch the game. Kelley mentioned that it was our anniversary, to which I went into the history above. Kelley then said that it was OK for me to watch the game, which led me to think that she was going to go into another room and watch a movie, do some scrap booking, or something else that she found enjoyable. But, that’s not what happened.

She sat down in the recliner next to mine, and watched the game. During the commercials and intermissions, we talked about things other than hockey. During the game we talked about the game. This wasn’t what she wanted to do, but she took part fully. We watched till the end of the game, which NY lost 7-5.

1998As I look back over the last 20 years, this has been a theme of our marriage. We’ve done a lot of things separately, much to our friends’ surprise sometimes. But, we’ve done a lot of those same things together more than just occasionally. Whether its been Mary Kay, Chargers’ and Panthers’ games, other sports, chess, scrap booking, ham radio, sign language, dutch oven cooking, or tech projects of all sorts, we’ve found a way to make space for the other to do these activities, and we’ve often participated in the other’s activities in supportive ways.

KELLEY DEach time, I think it has made us a little stronger as a couple


Seattle Has Two Dominant Soccer Teams

Last weekend, I took my daughter to two soccer games.

The first one was on Saturday. We watched the Seattle Sounders pummel the Colorado Rapids 4-1. The game was awesome, highlighted by a corner kick headed back to Clint Dempsey, who headed the ball over the keepers outstretched arm. My daughter got to experience the Sounders fans, the team’s band and all of the carnival that goes with a Sounders game.

The second game was on Sunday. The Seattle Reign FC was playing the Houston Dash in the National Women’s Soccer League‘s second season. Seattle won the game 2-0, keeping the ball in Houston’s end of the field most of the game. It was very entertaining to watch. The venue, Memorial Stadium, is much more subdued than the Sounders Century Link Field, but the collection of players is awesome.

In addition to Megan Rapino and Hope Solo, whom you’d recognize from Olympics and World cups past, they also have stars like Keelin Winters, Sydney Laroux and Kim Little. More than that, the rest of the team plays at a championship level.

The Reign has ended April, the first month of the season, 4-0.